Soulmate Quiz Does everyone have a romantic soul-mate?

Here's a valid soulmate quiz;

Does everyone have a romantic soul-mate?

I just finished watching The Bachelorette break a poor guy’s heart and proclaim her love for the other guy – her soul-mate. They each referred to the other as the person they wanted to spend the rest of their lives with, the person they were made for, their soul- mate. Well now I have to rant!

Break it down:

Soul: the spiritual part of humans believed to survive death and be subject to happiness or misery in a life to come: the seat of feelings.

Mate: one of a pair, a counterpart - an aide or helper.

Answer to the soulmate quiz? A Soul-Mate is your other half and will be with you even in the life to come. “One of a pair” seems to sum it up best, the implication being that if you don’t have both pieces you are not whole.

I have spent my entire adult life looking for this soul mate. Actually, pre-adult life – prepubescence! Even as a young girl I was aware of that missing piece and yearned for my spiritual counterpart and helper. If you believe in God then you would surmise that if there is a person on the planet who will make you whole, then God would have a hand in the creation of that person, yes?

And that definition begs the question, “do we each have just one soul mate?” What if we had our chance with “the one” when we were in college but broke up with him because he forgot our birthday? Or didn’t wear the right kind of jeans? Or fell for our room-mate? But a true pre-destined relationship would survive anything, right? The human flesh factor is removed from the picture when it comes to these definitions of a soul-mate.

Well, bollocks. BOLLOCKS! I don’t know what a bollock is, (I think it’s a pickled fish they serve in England?), but the sound of it fits. ‘If you don’t have both pieces you are not whole’, that foundational theory rubs against everything I’ve learned in the reality of relationship. Let’s break it down further. Is it feasible to think that God would create only one yang for our ying, knowing how we with our fleshly decision making, can make one small decision - like going to the mall instead of the gym, and potentially wreck God’s entire plan?

I believe that God has a plan for our lives and the closer we live to His will the happier we are in this dimension. I also know that innumerable times a day I stare His will straight in the eyes and choose the mall - figuratively speaking. Would God be so cruel as to give us free will and only one soul mate? One slip and you're bound to singleness forever? Not my God. When I spoke to Him this morning He was busily forgiving me and giving me a 2nd, 3rd, 4th chance - he's good like that.

And who wants to be with half a person? Ask your local marriage counselor about needy people entering into relationship to fill that hole – it’s a recipe for disaster. The job of a single is to “hustle while we wait” and grow ourselves in all areas; spiritually, financially, emotionally – and ready ourselves for that other whole person.

I’m not anti-romance, by any means. In fact, that other saying, “you shouldn’t marry the person you can live with – you should marry the person you can’t live without.”

Now that’s a theory I can get behind… and grab that seat of feelings with both hands!